How to Win Your Summer Vacation Visitation Modification
Planning child visitation for the summer vacation can create problems not only for divorced, or divorced spouses, but also for children. We offer the following tips to help you take some of the stress out of planning visitation with your children this summer.
Plan ahead – If you haven’t done so already, you need to start talking about visitation modification now. Trying to get a judge to hear a vacation dispute at the last minute will prove nearly impossible. If you think you might have to go to Court to have a decision made about visitation modification for summer vacation, call an attorney immediately.
If you already have a plan, keep a copy handy – If you need a copy of your summer vacation visitation schedule, call your attorney right away to ensure you have it well in advance of any big event.
If you don’t have a summer vacation visitation schedule, create one.
Some families choose to alternate holidays and big events every other year. If you got the kids for fourth of July this year, next year will be the other parent’s turn. Having a regular plan to fall back on can eliminate the potential for what is fair.
Be flexible and compromise – Consider your work schedule and the possibility of travel. If you work on the holidays, there is no point in taking the children if they will just be sitting home alone on Christmas. If you plan to travel over the summer vacation, let your spouse know and see if you can compromise on taking the children out of town. Remember, the easiest vacation schedule for everyone may require some changes from the normal visitation schedule. It may be hard to break long-standing traditions, but developing new traditions can help to reduce the stress.
Ask the kids – Find out what it is important to your kids. They may have a summer gathering that holds a special place for them; if this is the case you should try and accommodate them if it makes sense.
Choose you battles – Some summer holidays or family events are more important than others to you. Don’t fight for visitation for the sake of fighting. If you don’t really care about a family event, there is no harm in allowing the other parent to spend time with the children.
Take a breath – Family vacations can be very stressful even if you aren’t divorced, so remember to take a moment to relax and enjoy all of the festivities. Enjoy the company of friends and family and don’t let yourself get overwhelmed.